Your Wild Child


Raising A Child Not A Miniature Adult

No one has ever stated that raising a child is easy. It takes a lot of hard work on the part of the parent to ensure that the child grows up happy and has a healthy outlook on life.

That said, whether by accident or by design, some adults opt to raise a miniature adult instead of a child. They teach their child to abide by an adult schedule and take on adult values at an early age. Unfortunately, this also comes with the pressures and day-to-day stress of being an adult.

To avoid this, understand that kids are going to be kids. There are going to be curious and silly. Kids show their emotions easily, which is not always a pretty sight. You have to help them understand when it is OK to act out and when to learn to behave.

This requires talking with your child. Don't just tell the child what to do. Sit down with your child every day and get to know them as human beings. Your own kids may surprise you at how astute they are about life.

Expect your child to misbehave from time to time. There is no such thing as a perfect kid. Just deal with that fact.

Teaching Your Child To Socialize With Their Peers

Socialization is a critical part of early child development. Parents need to encourage their children to interact with peers. Such as interactions usually take place in the local neighborhood, school and after school activities. For example, parents should let their children interact with other kids in the neighborhood's playgrounds and parks. Children should be encouraged to participate in group activities in the classroom to form social skills.

A great way to socialize children with peers is sports. There are plenty of youth leagues and clubs that create a great social setting for boys and girls. Little league baseball and soccer competitions are definitely great ways for young children to develop social and competitive skills while having fun. Children can bond with their teammates and also form a competitive attitude towards their opponents. Of course, parents should also teach kids about good sportsmanship on the field.

Children should also be signed up for school trips. Classmates can form great friendships while enjoying attractions outside of a school. Parents can also volunteer to come along these trips and look after an entire class during such school trips. This way, parents can clearly see how their children are getting along with other classmates.

Milestones – When Is It Time To Be Concerned?

As a new parent, you watch your baby every day, excited to see him or her develop and reach new milestones. When your baby doesn't develop at a pace that your friend's or family member's children do, you may be concerned. In most cases, there is no need to be worried. Children start rolling over, crawling, walking and talking at different ages. Babies may begin walking as early as seven months or as late as eighteen months. As long as everything else is normal, you can enjoy your baby while you wait for new developmental milestones to come.

However, if your baby is missing more than one milestone and seems to be significantly delayed, speak to your pediatrician. Your child's doctor is your best source for information. You may receive assurance that your child is developing within the normal range, that your baby needs to be monitored for more signs of developmental delays or your pediatrician may recommend therapy to help your baby development motor or social skills.

Raising Your Child in a Safe Home

There is so much that goes into this that we really can't hope to cover it all in one, short little post, but we will do our best to sum it up. There are lots of things that go into raising a child - feeding them, educating them, keeping them out of trouble - but one of the most important and basic things is making sure they are growing up in a safe environment.

When they are babies, you need to keep the floors clean and clear of any small objects that could be swallowed or serve as choking hazards. You need to make sure you keep all the dangerous things on the highest shelves which, unfortunately, only get higher the more they grow.

When they get older, you have a whole new set of things to talk to them about. You need to make sure they know how to act in the event of a fire or other home disaster. You need to instruct them on stranger danger and not answering the door without an adult present.

There's a lot that goes into it and it can all be pretty daunting. There are, however, services like home safety education sites as well as other sites that dive deep into things you might not have considered like home security systems. As long as you do your research and apply what you learn, you'll be fine.

Preparing Your Child for the Worst

No parent wants to have to think about the possibility of a home invasion, and about the only thing scarier is talking about it with your child. However, as parents, it's your job to make sure your child is prepared for the worst and there are lots of ways you can prepare them for home invasion without scaring them. Below are a couple suggestions: 1.) Take a trip to your police station. The police make frequent appearances at schools and daycares to talk about safety. Schedule a visit and see if you can have a police officer talk to your child about the importance of being safe both inside and outside the home. 2.) Get a home security system and instruct your child in the proper use of it. 3.) Designate a safe zone for your children to run to in the event of an invasion. Usually the home of a neighbor you can trust is an ideal location. Establish a drill and make sure your kids know where to go and who to talk to in the event of an intrusion.

Spare The Rod And Spoil The Child

"Spare the rod and spoil the child" is the oft-quoted phrase attributed to the Bible that endorses corporal punishment. Did you know this phrase does not specifically come from the Bible? It's actually attributed to a 17th-century satirical poem by Samuel Butler entitled "Hudibras." Of course, his usage of the phrase is obviously derived from the Biblical passage Proverbs 13:24, "Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. Didn't catch that? This explains it." Proponents of physical discipline in particular like to justify their methods by citing that passage. A closer reading, however, reveals that it may not be so straightforward. Of course, by the time of the 1600s and Samuel Butler's poem, use of a rod is going to entail delivering a beating. However, in Biblical times a position of authority within a tribe of Hebrews would have been signified by a scepter or staff. It was the symbol of power. To that end, we could interpret the Biblical passage as similarly symbolic. Loving your son requires the diligence to enact discipline, but this is through the use of the rod. The rod, in this case, could easily mean the symbolic authority of the father. Sparing the rod here would entail failing to use that authority to properly discipline. Considering that other passages in Proverbs were clearly symbolic -23:5 details riches sprouting wings and taking flight- we can safely assume that the 13:24 passage is symbolic, as well. This makes the endorsement for corporal punishment significantly less clear-cut.

Should Television Be On During Meal Time?

Many families eat dinner in front of the television, but this is not a good habit to start. Although plenty of families get by just fine while dining in front of a television, it can have harmful effects in the long run.

First of all, encouraging your family to eat in front of the television can actually cause them to gain weight. Studies have shown that people who eat in front of the television consume much more than those who sit at the table when eating; this is probably because we tend to get distracted by what we are watching and therefore each until we are stuffed.

Also, family meals can be a great bonding time for you and your family. Eating dinner together is a great way to ensure that your entire family is close, even if you are all busy with work, school, sports and other commitments. By making an effort to eat dinner at the table, with no television or other distractions, you can encourage your family to talk about their day and to bond instead of concentrating on the television. If you watch television during meal time on a regular basis, consider turning it off tonight; you might be surprised by the enriching meal that you can enjoy with your family without this distraction.

Raising An Active Child In A Couch Potato World

One issue that many parents have is encouraging their child to go outside and get active instead of sitting on the couch while watching television or playing video games. Although it is a couch potato world, there are ways to encourage your child to be active. To keep your child active, put a restriction on how many hours a day your child can play video games or watch television. Some families do not allow television or video games on weeknights, or you can restrict it to one or two hours a day. The full explanation can be found at This will encourage your child to get outside in order to find other things to do. Also, purchase your child toys that encourage activity instead of video games and electronics. Jump ropes, hula hoops, pogo sticks, bicycles and other active toys are slowly being replaced by expensive electronics, but these toys will help your child to be more active; he will have a lot of fun with them as well. You can also encourage your child to play sports. Whether you prefer to play a bit of football, soccer, baseball or basketball with your child in the back yard or if you sign him up for school sports or intramural sports, these activities will help your child to be active.

Encouraging Eating Healthy From Day One

The best way to teach a child to eat healthy is to start when they are young. There are multiple tips to help a parent encourage their child eat healthy and make good food choices.

Introduce an Array of Foods Early:
The early introduction of an array of healthy foods helps children learn to eat properly. Many children will prefer certain foods over others. The introduction of many different kinds of foods offers a child nutritious options.

Do Not Make Meal Time A Battleground:
Do not force a child to eat something that they dislike. Offer children a well balanced meal. Tell the child they have to try everything and if they do not like a certain food they do not have to eat it. Forcing a child to eat something they hate has the potential to cause lifelong eating issues.

Have Fun With Food:
Make fun shapes with fruits and vegetables. Food that is colorful and looks fun will prompt eating. Adding a healthy dip when serving raw vegetables will offer any picky eater a nutritious choice. Have a child help with the preparation of the meal. This encourages good food choices and the child will desire to eat the meal they had a hand in creating.

Discipline Techniques Geared Towards The Individual Child

When it comes to parenting, one of the things that you have to do is discipline your child. It might not be easy, and it sometimes hurts you as the parent more than the child, but it is something that has to be done. The reason for discipline is to teach respect and obedience. It is not something that should be done because the child is seeking attention. There are a few things that you can do with your child that teaches discipline. A card system is a great way to show your child what they are doing wrong and when they do it. Get a cork board, and place it in the child's room. Index cards of three or four different colors should be displayed on the board. Arrange the cards so that the colors are green, yellow, orange and red. The child should start on green each day. If the child does something they should not do, take the first card down. Each card should have a consequence such as sitting in a corner and placing a toy in a bag. Another idea is the rewards system. If the child listens for a certain number of days during the week, then he or she can choose a prize from a box.